Rejection means humiliation. Especially when it is public. Embarassment is an intense feeling, where you feel you just want to disappear to a place where no one knows you.
And these feelings will be your constant companions if you are in the art / entertainment field. The worst part is that almost all the time, you will come to know of your rejection from a third party- either the one who replaced you, or an innocent bystander. Those who reject you seldom have the guts to say to your face “Sorry, we picked someone else”.
You will go for recordings to other ends of town at weird hours, sing two lines, and be told, “Recording is postponed as studio is booked now, we will let you know the next available date.” Now don’t be naïve and keep practicing the song hoping they will call you- they won’t. Silence also means rejection. When people don’t call you, or pick your calls- they are not busy, they are just avoiding having to tell you the truth. And when that happens, don’t ask “Why? What did I do wrong?” There is seldom an answer.
One way to handle it is to be thick-skinned and say “Hey, they are the big losers. I was a great catch, and they lost me”. The other way is the revenge reaction “Just you wait- one day I’ll be famous and successful, and you will come crawling to my door, and I won’t give you the time of day. Hah!” The other, painful way, is to look inward and admit you weren’t good enough.
But hey, atleast you tried- if you don’t even try, there’s no risk of rejection, but no chance at glory….
And these feelings will be your constant companions if you are in the art / entertainment field. The worst part is that almost all the time, you will come to know of your rejection from a third party- either the one who replaced you, or an innocent bystander. Those who reject you seldom have the guts to say to your face “Sorry, we picked someone else”.
You will go for recordings to other ends of town at weird hours, sing two lines, and be told, “Recording is postponed as studio is booked now, we will let you know the next available date.” Now don’t be naïve and keep practicing the song hoping they will call you- they won’t. Silence also means rejection. When people don’t call you, or pick your calls- they are not busy, they are just avoiding having to tell you the truth. And when that happens, don’t ask “Why? What did I do wrong?” There is seldom an answer.
One way to handle it is to be thick-skinned and say “Hey, they are the big losers. I was a great catch, and they lost me”. The other way is the revenge reaction “Just you wait- one day I’ll be famous and successful, and you will come crawling to my door, and I won’t give you the time of day. Hah!” The other, painful way, is to look inward and admit you weren’t good enough.
But hey, atleast you tried- if you don’t even try, there’s no risk of rejection, but no chance at glory….
